How far are you from achieving your dreams?
Most of us are going along our human experience called Life, and as we are on our path, we are longing for a sense of growth and progress.
Although all of us want to make changes in our lives (career and professional changes, personal life changes), most of the time we make short-term changes. We write “wish lists” starting New Year and we continue with “to-do” lists that don’t lead to an important, life growing major breakthrough.
When, suddenly, one day we realize that we are not moving forward while we having a feeling of not making so much progress, we try to change one or few habits.
And our fears, believes, and emotions come along the way and put us back to our previous state, added with the feeling of disappointment and frustration.
So, how do we live a life in such way that we, not only achieve our goals, but also experience amazing growth along the way?
The first few questions we can ask ourselves are the
What do I seek to make progress in?
What is the dream I want to achieve?
And why is it so important to me? How would I feel?
Take a piece of paper and start answering those questions….
Achieving our dreams are part of a long process.
They help us to explore our potential as human beings.
To start exploring our potential, we need to clarify our
So let’s dive into different exercises that will help you to do so.
Those exercises are about your life values, they will help you to define who you are, and what truly matters to you (essential to defining your compelling vision):
1-) Write down the 10 things you enjoy doing the most.
2-) Write 3 things you need to do to feel fulfilled at work.
3-) Write down 5 most important values in your life and what you stand for.
4-) Lastly, if money weren’t an issue, how would you spend your time? What would you be doing?
Take your time to answer those deep and powerful questions…
Then, ask yourself :
Where am I at, in this very present moment in my
life, with respect to my vision?
What are the thoughts that brought me in my current situation (example: lack of confidence, fear of others judgement, fear of failure…)
– What are the next steps to take in order to get closer to my vision?
Make a list of the different things you are committed in doing to meet your dream.
Put them on your calendar, day by day, week after week.
A different mindset and different actions will lead you to different results.
With discipline and focus your mind will begin to see patterns and alignments that you didn’t see before.
This will lead you to getting closer to your vision, closer to your living dream.
Next episode: let’s overcome our fears!
Meanwhile have fun and stay serene.
Today, I wanted to share with you an extract from an amazing book written by an Australian woman. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard’.
Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?